Massive apologies to you all

I’m sorry, please forgive me

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I went off on holiday to Spain and so wanted to keep in touch with you all — until I got sick, again (for over a week). I couldn’t even sit up to read or to make comments on all your posts.

After that, we had to move homes as our friend’s (Charlie) massive and extended family were all arriving for his birthday celebrations in a few days time. We went to stay at another mutual friend’s villa and I soon realised that he had no wifi so I couldn’t use my laptop – oh boy, did I need it!

Backstabbing and bitching

It turns out that none of the extended family groups liked each other so they all bitched constantly behind each other’s backs – but not in front of Charlie, so he wasn’t aware.

During one of Charlie’s intro parties, I’d made food which his kids and grown up grandkids devoured with their fingers, dipping stuff into various sauces when there was shouts of “Oi, don’t f*cking double dip – that’s f*cking disgusting you stupid cow” and from someone else, there was “Yuck, triple dipping – what you f*cking doing?” Interspersed with several bitch and C words. Nothing to do with us, but it was late and we left them all to it anyway.

Ever pinched a chip from someone?

Next day, at a restaurant, I made the terrible mistake of trying to pinch a chip from a young lad’s plate (the boyfriend of one of Charlie’s granddaughters) but sadly and shockingly it quickly spiralled out of control.

He screamed “Don’t f*cking do that you f*cking stupid bitch?” then stabbed at the chip viciously with his fork and shoved it in his mouth. He shouted “Why did you f*cking do that? You’re f*cking disgusting” so aggressively that it made me jump and had the whole restaurant staring at our table in disbelief.

More apologies

I quickly apologised and said I’d never do it again when his girlfriend joined in with even worse expletives. I apologised yet again and, as we were by the door, I left the restaurant feeling embarrassed. My hubby followed quickly and said “That’s it, we’re going.” Although I knew I’d overstepped the mark, I was still upset by the ensuing outrage.

I was also furious because I had forsaken my best friend’s mum’s funeral to attend Charlie’s celebrations – obviously I’d booked the holiday before I knew about the funeral date.

During all this, I’d had a severe toothache caused by a Spanish dentist filling a gaping hole in my tooth without taking any x-rays. I’d had an abscess which then needed antibiotics for five days before I could have any further work done. With a new dentist, full x-rays and my tooth now removed, I felt a bit tender but relieved of the agony so decided I wanted to fly back to the UK, miss Charlie’s party and attend the funeral – as I should have done in the first place.

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However, I had no wifi. I had to call a friend, in tears, and she managed to book me a last minute flight to London for Friday. Although I felt really bad for Charlie, I just couldn’t spend any more time with the trailer trash extended families.

I am so glad that I chose to fly home and that I did attend the funeral to support my bestie. It was a beautiful service and a warm sunny day where we celebrated Marion’s life and said our goodbyes. Lots of family and friends that I hadn’t seen in years returned to my bestie’s home to continue sharing fond memories and funny stories about and with Marion.

Though I was considering going back to Alicante, I’ve heard that the coronavirus is there so I need to check out any risks first. If I can’t get back into Alicante, it means my hubby’s can’t get out 🙁

So, with all that behind me and regardless of whether I return to Spain, please accept my apologies once again and I’ll be reading all your latest posts as soon as I can.


Mum to two amazing sons. Following recovery from a lengthy psychotic episode, depression, anxiety and anorexia, I decided to train as a Mental Health Nurse and worked successfully in various settings before becoming a Ward Manager. I am a Mental Health First Aid Instructor and a Mental Health Awareness Trainer, Mental Health First Aid Youth and Mental Health Armed Forces Instructor. Just started my mental health from the other side blog.

31 thoughts on “Massive apologies to you all”

  1. Oh my! Those people at Charlie’s sound horribly rude and offensive! You can have a french fry off my plate anytime! How dreadful, and your teeth, too! Don’t feel bad!! I hope your husband and you can get back together soon. The coronavirus is scary!!

      1. Well, keep us posted, because it’s freaky-scary that you and your husband are separated due to this scary illness!! God bless!!

  2. Oh my. Oh my. I had my mouth wide open in shock, just as I would have dine had I actually been there and witnessed it. No I have had a chip took from me before and vice versa I have done it. Over my lifetime, I have witnessed this in some way or another, whether doing it, receiving it, ir watching someone else do it, but I have never witnessed anyone shout, let alone swear to anyone. It’s been done in a bit of fun where the micky may have been taken, but nothing verbally aggressive like this.
    You said sorry. But they really went over the top. I personally wouldn’t have a meal with them again, if that’s how verbal they are with their swear words. Especially when eating out.
    It says a lot more about them, than you. I would have jumped out of my skin too.

    It sounds like a lot of things have been going on and you being busy in some way, in between when you fell ill unfortunately.


    1. Oh Liz, it was truly awful and I’m not sure if Charlie will ever return to what was his favourite restaurant – he’ll be too ashamed. I felt for him as we didn’t go to his BIG celebration and he really wanted us there. I’ve heard it all went badly wrong – the poor guy left his own party in a taxi despite having booked and paid for a bus to get everyone to the venue and back home afterward 🙁 x

  3. It’s unfortunate that went so badly. You’d think it would be that hard for people to behave like civilized human beings. Sounds like it was a very good decision to head back for the funeral.

  4. Sorry you had such a rough time with the tooth and the family-ish people. Sucky get away. But you’re back now and on the mend and they are away from you so…yay?

  5. I usually don’t share my food too …. just joking! What an extreme reaction for one chip. Especially in Spain where sharing food is the way to eat. I love tasting food from other plates, I’m just curious. I hope your tooth pain will be resolved soon.
    I don’t think it will be a problem to take a flight to Spain or the UK, when you don’t have symptoms I think that there isn’t going to be an issue (for now).
    Do not worry about reading posts and commenting, everything in its time and your health always comes first, no?

  6. Oh no, I’m so sorry you’ve been poorly. How’re you feeling now? I’m not sure what to say to the whole chip-fiasco. So this kid was within the ‘group’ there, and yet he felt he could speak to you like that in front of his girlfriend and everyone else..? That’s definitely out of line. What a nightmare but I’m glad you got to attend the funeral and that it went as well as possible (as well as such a thing could, at least). Rest in peace, Marion🌹

    As for the coronavirus, travel is certainly up in the air for many now ( no pun intended!)… it’s scary how fast things are evolving. I hope you, hubby and your families stay safe and well.
    Caz xxxx

  7. Wow those people sound horrible who yells at someone like that over food. Also sorry to hear you were ill and hope you remain safe from this horrible virus.

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