Many mental health nurses lack knowledge and skills

Even early on in my mental health nursing career, as a student in fact, it was clear to me that some mental health nurses needed to find another job. They won’t though. They know they have a cushy job working for the NHS. It’s notoriously difficult to dismiss staff, even if you do follow the Trust Policies exactly.

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I saw many a nurse who lacked the knowledge and skills necessary for nursing and who was totally unaware of it. They belong in the unconscious incompetence group in the square and this makes them potentially dangerous. If they’re not even aware, or have never been told that they are incompetent, they’ll continue to perform poorly and make mistakes, some of which could be fatal, in terms of nursing.

The fact that these nurses were oblivious to their incompetence is bad enough, but for this not to have been picked up by their managers is almost criminal. One major problem was that our managers were all previously nurses and 99.9% had no secretarial, admin, book-keeping, human resources or management experience. Therefore managers lacked the knowledge and skills to manage staff. That’s another post.

Some of our nurses were just plain lazy too, maybe because of their incompetence, so I’ll start off with them.

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The number of times I approached a nurse sitting on their lazy fat arse, watching t.v., particularly if they were on what’s called a bank shift (we had a bank of staff who covered extra shifts where needed), infuriated me. I’d suggest, if they were qualified, they go and help with medication. “Oh, but I’m just bank shift today,” they’d exclaim. I’d ask if they were getting paid a wage this week, “Yes,” they’d laugh, looking at me curiously.

“Okay, good. Now get up and go do something to earn it.” I’d smile.

Even bank nursing assistants tried the “I’m only bank today.” Somehow that translates as you don’t have to do any work on a bank shift? And “I’m just bank this morning. I’m on blah blah ward this afternoon/evening so I’ll be exhausted. Oh, and I need to leave early.”

“That’s not my problem whether you’ll be tired, nor is where you’ll be working later, you committed to a shift and I need you to carry it out.” I’d insist.

“Well you need to call my manager to tell them I can’t leave early,” they’d cry.

“No. You need to tell your manager and let them know that you booked an extra shift on our ward, knowing you were working on your own ward later.” I’d remind them.

“Evelyn never had a problem with me working double shifts, and she let me go early.” tried one nurse.

“Evelyn no longer works here. And there will be no more double shifts and leaving early from now on.” How these staff got away with all this for years, I can only guess.

However, the thing I detested most was when you said to nurses, “Put your newspaper down, spend some time with your patients, talk to them……..”

I got “I don’t know them, I’m just a bank nurse.” or “I don’t know what to say.” How hard is it to start a damn conversation? I always wondered at uni, why we had to have copious lessons in communication skills. Now I know.

Lazy Doctors

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Some Doctors were just as bad, particularly during the night shift. You’d call them to assess a patient in A&E and they’d say “I’m over at Rosemary ward (situated five minutes down the road from the main hospital) with a patient. I’ll be there in about an hour,” which really meant two. Hhmmm, Rosemary ward – every night you called for a Doctor – they only had eight patients.

Obviously I was aware that Doctors worked long hours and the needed breaks, but we were working with agitated and chaotic patients here, many who needed medication prescribed immediately. Without medication, patients sometimes had to be restrained, which wasn’t fair on them, or the Team – soooo a change in tactics was needed. “Okay, no problem Doc. I’ll put that in the notes. Thank y…….”

“Okay, okay. I’ll be there” and so they were, ten minutes later.

Kobi was just plain lazy

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We had one nurse, a lump of lard called Kobi, who was as round as he was tall and he just lumbered around the ward, stuffing his face non-stop. As part of our jobs, we are expected to carry the bleep for Rapid Response (RRT where you have to attend any emergency on A&E or another ward) and to help restrain patients when necessary. Before I joined Daffodil ward, Kobi had long since refused to do these two tasks because he said he had sore knees. His colleagues thought this was unfair as they were having to pick up the slack, and I agreed.

I appreciate that staff will be sick or in pain at times, but there are policies and systems in place to manage this i.e. assess for other underlying health problems, further training, offer Occupational Therapy or other support and plan a time frame in which to return to full duties or assess the need for more time, then review. You can’t just decide you won’t do these tasks.

When we met to discuss this issue, I gave him some options to consider and offered support. He puffed and panted “I was manager (for a private mental health hospital) for two years before, you know. I have a right to refuse to do things as I see fit. I will speak to my union, you know.”

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“Yes, I’m aware that you were a Manager and yes, of course, please speak to your union. Let them know what we’ve discussed, the support I’ve offered you and the three-month time frame for review. I’ll put what we’ve discussed in writing later today.” He never did go to his union and his knees got better but unfortunately, he didn’t.

Kobi was neglectful

During one morning handover, Kobi reported that Betty had fallen from her chair in the night and that she was assessed before being supported back to her chair. We could see Betty sitting in the day room and she looked rather uncomfortable, so I asked “Ah, was she bruised or anything? What did the Doctor say?”

“Pftt, she didn’t need a Doctor. She was all okay. She say her shoulder hurt, but she always complain about it.”

“Why didn’t you call the Doctor, Kobi? She always complains about her left shoulder – because. she’s. in. pain. Kobi. This time, she’s holding her right shoulder.”

“I assessed her and she was okay. I tell you. I was manager before, I can make a judgement call.”

Everybody knows that if a patient falls, a Doctor must always be called to assess for injury or pain and to prescribe any further treatment or pain relief. What on earth made him think that on this occasion, he did not need a Doctor to visit the ward?

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At that, I left the nursing office and went to speak with Betty to ask if she was in pain and at the same time, take a look at her shoulder. She didn’t have to take her cardigan off fully because as I slid the top of the sleeve towards her shoulder, she yelped and I caught sight of the almighty black and blue bruise. “Get Betty over to A&E immediately please Lauren. Kobi, when you’ve finished handover, come to see me.” I silently fumed.

“Er, no! I can’t. I have to take my grandson to school. Then I’m off ’til Monday,” he croaked and he looked quite flustered. I immediately rang my Modern Matron for advice and she agreed there wasn’t much we could do until he returned. In the meantime, the rest of the staff had to complete his paperwork, fill out the incident form and someone had to sit with Betty over at A&E.

Eventually we met again and he was given his first written warning (I would have dismissed him).

Kobi was a risk to patients

Not a month later, he let a patient into the bathroom on her own and she almost drowned in the bath. This elderly patient, Esme, couldn’t have been more than 4′ 6″ and obviously wasn’t long enough for her feet to reach the end of the bath. She was in the habit of filling the bathtub to the top and it was written in her care plan that 1) she must be supervised in the bathroom at all times, 2) she had to request the key to the bathroom door, to alert staff that she wanted to have a bath and 3) she was not to have a bath during the night.

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This lardy arse excuse for a man said that, despite the clear care plan, he wanted to give Esme some privacy so he just popped back and forth every minute to check on her. Yet another nurse said he sat in the office for about thirty minutes while she went round the ward to do the half hourly checks. It was this nurse who heard Esme splashing around, almost drowning, and called for help to open the door as Esme had locked it from the inside. Oh but he did real good this time; he called the Doctor!

As instructed by the Human Resources Department, he was given his second written warning, which I didn’t think was good enough so they removed him from our ward, only to be placed elsewhere – a male ward, so he would be at less risk of causing harm to a patient.

Rachel just panicked

During a restraint one day, where it took more nurses than usual to restrain a new admission patient, I was on the floor trying to engage the patient and give assurances that we were indeed trying to help him. Rachel, a ward nurse, had gone to draw up the medication and had been gone for over ten minutes; the patient was becoming more agitated and the restraint team were tiring.

Rachel eventually returned and with the patient’s underwear down, she cleaned and marked the injection site. She pressed the plunger so the needle went in slightly and pulled it back out, as is correct. She was ashen faced when she saw blood in the barrel, which means that she’d hit a blood vessel*. This isn’t a huge problem as long as you stop, remove the needle and press on the injection site to stop it bleeding. She didn’t. She pressed the plunger and the needle went in.

*A broken blood vessel can cause internal bleeding within the muscle and the patient may feel pain and stiffness in the muscle. If a blood vessel breaks, scar tissue or blood clots can form and if a blood clot starts to wander and reaches the heart or lungs, the consequences can be life-threatening.  Injections that hit an artery can be particularly dangerous.

Rachel started panicking and was tearful, so I lead her away while the rest of the team continued and someone called for the Doctor. I got Rachel a coffee and sat her in my office to calm down before joining the Doctor, who confirmed there was no real damage done and the patient would be informed later.

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I returned to my office and downloaded an Incident Form so I wouldn’t forget to complete it later. I turned to Rachel and said not to worry as everything was fine, “Talk me through what happened,” I said kindly, as I felt bad for her. The floodgates opened and she wailed “You were rushing me and I made a mistake……….. It wasn’t my fault……”

“Hey, no one’s blaming you Rachel. Mistakes happen. I just want you to talk me through it.” We have protocols to follow with damaged injection sites and I wanted Rachel to discuss what happened, so that she would learn from it. There would be no follow up other than if she were to make the same mistake again. Only then would she be requested to attend the “Safe medication” course.

Rachel wasn’t prepared to let me explain, “If there’s nothing wrong, why am I in your office? And why have you got the incident form out?” She screamed defensively. “I don’t need this. You don’t know what’s going on in my life.”

“No, I don’t. But you can tell me……….” too late. She’s up and out the door, storming into the staff room, telling everyone on her way, “she’s picking on me.”

The long and short of it – she went off sick with work-related stress. Me, my manager and the HR department tried to contact her at regular intervals, even visiting her home, in accordance with Trust Policy, to no avail.

Almost a year later, without my knowledge or any reference request, she was back in our hospital, working on the Mother and Baby Unit.

Oh dear. Even HR make mistakes – she was still officially employed by the Trust. And who in hell thought she’s be suitable to work with newborn babies!

Who do you think ought to be responsible for incompetent and lazy staff?

Fake mental health patients

Some of you might want to crucify me for mentioning ‘fake’ patients but hold on. Wait until you’ve finished reading this post.

Pauline

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I was still in my six month preceptorship period when Pauline was admitted to Lavender Ward, an acute inpatient mental health ward. She was neat and tidy, her hair and nails were spotless, she appeared cheerful and engaged easily with the other patients while waiting to be assessed. However, during her admission assessment she relayed that she had been living on the streets, she was paranoid, depressed, anxious and suicidal – she’d actually been seen by passers bye running across a main road several times, without looking out for traffic, according to the paramedics who brought her in.

Pauline was articulate, she maintained good eye contact with me and smiled appropriately during the assessment. She said she had no family at all and had lost her friends since becoming ‘mad’ and homeless – though she couldn’t remember for how long. Pauline reported that she slept well although she had paranoid dreams, which didn’t wake her. The paranoia she described was that someone was after her and wanted to kill her but she couldn’t be clear about when this happened or who it was that wanted to kill her.

Once seen and admitted by a nurse, the patient’s baseline observations are taken i.e. blood pressure, temperature, pulse, respirations, height, weight etc. All of which were stable. After this, the patient would be seen by the ward doctor, normally an SHO, a junior doctor who is on their six month rotation and has little psychiatric knowledge.

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We had a tall, handsome and smarmy (oops, I mean polite) young chap, Dr Wellar, who looked down his nose whenever a nurse approached him. This was only his second week on the ward and I did tell him one day, “these nurses know way more than you do, and you ought to treat them with the respect they deserve.” That marked my card with him, I’m afraid.

Dr Smarmy stood to greet Pauline and, shaking her hand, he invited her to sit in ‘his’ office for a chat. She was in heaven, all smiles and giggling like a teenager. So I wasn’t sure why, when they’d finished her assessment, he announced to the team that she needs to be on close obs (There’s lots of circumstances where patients may require one to one nursing i.e. the patient is acutely physically unwell and/or requires frequent observations, the patient is acutely mentally ill and/or at immediate risk of serious self harm/suicide etc).

Depending on the level of risk, one to one nursing can be carried out by either a qualified nurse or a nursing assistant. Pauline was classed as high risk of suicide so needed to be observed by a qualified nurse 24/7, which includes when the patient goes to the loo. This takes one person from the staff numbers i.e. reducing the amount of staff by one. If you are nursing one to one, you cannot be expected to care for your five patients on top of this. Sometimes, the Trust allowed us to have an extra member of staff, more often a nursing assistant, to keep costs down.

As I’d done Pauline’s initial assessment, I was allocated as her 1:1 nurse so I spent the rest of that morning’s shift with her. We chatted about the weather, her dog and how she was worried about him – she didn’t know where he was. Pauline’s mum works “oh, I mean worked” as a teacher but she couldn’t remember the name of the school. I just kept the conversation light and said how proud she must have been of her mum etc. But something just didn’t sit right with me and I passed all this onto the afternoon shift.

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On my next shift, I was allocated to Pauline, 1:1, as apparently she liked me and we’d built up a good rapport. Again we chatted amiably about her past – what she could remember of it – she said her depression was affecting her memory. Obviously I had to accompany her while she showered and went to the loo, but to give her some privacy and to maintain her dignity, I averted my eyes temporarily. However, she was inappropriate at times, dropping her towel, not able to find her knickers, could I pass her the toilet paper or her wet wipes – almost anything to keep my attention.

Let me tell you something now; it’s no fun being in a bathroom when someone else has to poop and it’s worse still when you have to get close enough to pass the toilet paper.

Towards the end of one shift, she told me how sad she was that I’d be off over the weekend as she really enjoyed out chats. At the end of my shift she really invaded my personal space when she threw her arms around me and planted a great big kiss on each cheek “Adios. Au revoir. Bye my angel nurse. I will miss you.” I kid you not.

I’d really enjoyed my days off but still looked forward to getting back to work. On my return, as I walked through the front door to the ward, I was almost past the Dr’s office when Smarmy called me in, “Can’t you even get one thing right? You only had to look after one person – how hard can it be?” he demanded and shook his head at me disdainfully. “Pauline said you left her in the shower for nearly 20 minutes and she tried to kill herself.” I shook my head back at him, I smiled and assured him that this was simply not true.

He continued berating and belittling me until he took a breath and I simply responded that I was off to see our Ward Manager. She believed and trusted me that it simply wasn’t true. He’d been ‘had’ but obviously this was the story he was re-telling the whole multi-disciplinary team, making me look incompetent. However, he took in what the ward manager said to him and conceded he might be wrong.

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In the meantime, I felt like I’d been punched in the stomach. I was hurt by Pauline’s tale; I thought we’d formed a good professional bond. One of our senior nurses said not to worry, don’t take it personally and reflect on this; trust me, you will learn from it.

I had to work with Pauline a few more shifts and just kept up the banter but didn’t mention the ‘incident’ and nor did she. Had I been a bit more experienced I would have discussed it with her but right at that moment, I didn’t want to upset her – there was something going on for her? and I was still trying to work her out.

After a week, we had a phone call from her mother, asking if we had a Josephine on the ward. Yes, it turns out this is something Pauline does now and again. She frequents hospitals seeking admission because she said ‘she gets a bed and fed’. In the meantime, she saves up her benefit money while she’s in whatever hospital. Some might say that this is a mental illness in itself?

Ronnie

This young lad had been admitted voluntarily after he went to A&E saying he was paranoid and hearing voices. He was amiable and loved chatting with fellow patients and the staff. He could be heard asking other patients why they were in hospital and was interested in hearing about their symptoms. After a few days staff could see that he wasn’t displaying any symptoms of anxiety, paranoia or hearing voices and had hinted as much to Ronnie.

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Late one night shift, we watched as he paced the long corridor outside the nursing office. He had his head cocked to one side, looking up towards the heavens’, and was saying out loud “Sorry. Say that again. I can’t hear you.” He gave the odd sideways glance towards the office to see if anyone was watching him and continued, “Don’t say that. I’m scared. You’re scaring me.”

Me and Billy, my favourite nurse, found this rather comical and went to sit outside to observe Ronnie and start a conversation with him. Billy asked “What are the voices saying to you Ronnie?” and Ronnie cocked his head to one side, looked upwards again and asked “What are you saying? Ah, ok, hold on.” and in all seriousness, he turned to Billy and said “They’re saying they don’t like you. They don’t want me to talk to you.”

I could barely keep a straight face as I probed a little further, “Okay, tell me Ronnie, how many voices are there?” He did the cocked head thing and the upward glance then cupped his ear, as though he was listening, then counting on his spare hand he looked at me and whispered, “two – and they said they like you.”

We continued in this vein for around fifteen minutes before Billy and I just laughed out loud. Ronnie’s utterances were becoming more ludicrous by the minute and Billy said as much to him, “Hey, soft lad. You look bloody stupid. You’re not hearing voices are you?” Ronnie knew the game was up and pleaded with us not to tell the doctors, “Anyway, they can’t send me home, I don’t have anywhere to go. They’ll have to find me a flat, won’t they?”

Emergency Treatment Team

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I worked with the Emergency Team for a while. This was where people would come during daytime hours to be assessed and we, as nurses, would decide whether to admit someone or to refer them to another service i.e. home treatment team (HTT).

We had so many ‘fake’ patients asserting their mental illness rights, looking for admission so we could find them a home with a garden. Or they needed housing application forms completed, saying that they had a mental illness, which they hoped would put them near the top of the the already groaning housing list or benefit forms so they could access Disability Living Allowance.

Many reported being depressed but when asked to explain, some would say they’ve got a bad back and needed a ground floor flat as the stairs were difficult. Or excruciating headaches due to noisy, antisocial neighbours and it’s driving them mad so they need to move. As though getting a new home would somehow magic away their pain and depression. While I appreciate that decent housing is beneficial to everyone, admission to a mental health ward is not. Furthermore, housing lists are stretched to their limits and London now requires around 66,000 new homes a year to provide enough homes for current and future Londoners.

Given that our hospital served the local population which was approximately 52% non white-British, we had patients from nearly every country and many of them needed interpreters. When they mentioned housing or benefit forms, I always asked them via the interpreter “Do you know where you are right now?” and “Do you know this is a mental health emergency department?” And often told them “This is not a housing services.” or “This is not a benefit office.” before signposting them to the appropriate services

The thing is, we had thousands of patients with chronic mental illnesses who desperately needed our support and mental health intervention or treatment. Moreover, Mental Health is like the Cinderella service of the NHS and we don’t get lots of money so what little we do get is needed for ‘real’ patients.

Do you think I was harsh in turning patients away?

Obsessive compulsive disorder – OCD

The following might be some of the things you’ve heard about OCD:

  • Someone is ‘a little’ OCD
  • OCD is not that big a deal, people just need to relax and not worry so much
  • OCD is just being a germaphobe
  • OCD is a choice
  • OCD is about being obsessively tidy or clean
  • People with OCD wash their hands many times a day

However, it’s a lot more complicated than all the above.

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  • Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) is a common mental health condition in which a person has obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviours.
  • It affects men, women and children, and can develop at any age. Some people develop the condition early, often around puberty, but it typically develops during early adulthood
  • OCD can be distressing and significantly interfere with your life, but treatment can help you keep it under control.
  • OCD is a serious mental health condition that causes individuals to experience a variety of symptoms that typically fall into one of two categories: ‘obsessions’ (thoughts or images)) and/or ‘compulsions’ (behaviours), which do intertwine

Obsessions

  • are unwanted, persistent and uncontrollable thoughts, images, or impulses
  • they can sometimes be persistent worries, fears or doubts or a combination of all these
  • the person doesn’t want to have these ideas; he or she finds them disturbing and usually knows that they don’t make sense
  • interfere with the sufferers ability to function day to day as they are incredibly difficult to ignore
  • come with uncomfortable feelings, such as shame, fear, disgust, doubt, or a feeling that things have to be done “just so”

The sufferer will go to extreme lengths to block and resist their obsessions – invariably they return within a short period of time, often lasting hours if not days, which can leave the person both mentally and physically exhausted and drained. One way people try to block or neutralize obsessions is with compulsions.

Compulsions

  • are repetitive/ritualised behaviors or thoughts that a person engages in to neutralize, counteract, or make their obsessions go away
  • can also include avoiding situations that trigger obsessions
  • are time consuming and get in the way of the normal activities of daily living
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People with OCD realise that acting on the compulsion is only a temporary solution, but without a better way to cope, they rely on that compulsion as a temporary escape.

Compulsions serve to avoid or reduce distress. In some cases, a person may believe they must perform compulsive acts in order to prevent something terrible from happening i.e. a person might touch things only after they’ve all been bleached -they believe they must perform this act in order to prevent disease or a person might feel the need to constantly check that the doors are lock – they believe they must do this to stop someone in their family from being harmed.

Normal or abnormal?

Obsessive and compulsive traits on their own are not a mental illness — we all have normal, everyday obsessions, things that maybe we obsess over. I like my kitchen cupboards to be neat and tidy but my sister takes it to the extreme and goes mad if all the labels aren’t facing the right way. She’ll get angry, then sulk for a minute with whoever the perpetrator was, then carry on as normal. However, this doesn’t mean that she has OCD either.

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The main difference between normal and abnormal obsessions is that people with OCD report obsessions which are more intense, frequent and difficult to control. They can’t just “snap out of it.”

The real struggle with a person’s OCD is a manifestation of anxiety that creates an actual disturbance in one’s day to day life. Their thoughts are linked with intense anxiety driving them to engage in compulsive behavior — their only way out. See the wheel.

Signs and symptoms of OCD

Issues that commonly concern people with OCD and result in compulsive behaviour include:

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  • Cleanliness/order – obsessive hand-washing or household cleaning to reduce an exaggerated fear of contamination; obsession with order, with an overwhelming need to perform tasks or place objects, such as books or cutlery, in a particular place and/or pattern (with intense distress or distractions if this order or arrangement is disturbed)
  • Counting/hoarding – repeatedly counting items/objects, such as socks/clothes or pavement blocks when they are walking; hoarding items such as junk mail and old newspapers
  • Safety/checking – obsessive fears about harm occurring to either themselves or others which can result in compulsive behaviours such as repeatedly checking whether the stove/kettle/iron has been turned off or that windows and doors are locked
  • Religious/moral issues – feeling a compulsion to pray a certain number of times a day or to such an extent that it interferes with their work and/or relationships
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Most people with OCD know that their thoughts and compulsions are irrational. They know that just because they think something is going to happen doesn’t mean it will, and they know that acting on their compulsions won’t stop or prevent something, but they can’t risk it. This is what makes OCD so distressing for sufferers.

Treatment normally involves counseling, such as cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), and sometimes antidepressants. CBT for OCD involves increasing exposure to what causes the problems while not allowing the repetitive behavior to occur.

An important thing to remember is that the occasional intrusive thought, even a disturbing and horrific one, is normal for every individual, even those without OCD. But if you need help, please contact you GP. OCD and mental illness can be successfully treated.

I hope this will answer some of your questions about OCD but please feel free to ask for more details or to make any comment.

Incompetent nurses on our mental health wards

My mental health nurse training

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I spent three arduous years at university, half of which was spent as a student on placements within various mental health settings, to become a mental health nurse. But it took me another four years of working as a mental health nurse, along with more part-time studies, to feel confident in my knowledge and skills and to become a good nurse.

I was so proud when I was offered my first nursing post on my favourite ward and looked forward to working with the team. Generally, within our Trust, on each ward for twenty patients, we had two qualified Registered Mental Health (RMN’s) nurses and two Nursing Assistants (NA’s) on each of the morning and afternoon shifts. On the night shift, we had two RMN’s and one NA. One RMN acts as shift co-ordinator and they allocate patients to each member of the team. Normally, one would allocate patients with the least clinical needs to the NA’s and patients with higher risk and needs would be allocated to qualified staff.

We also had State Enrolled Nurses SEN’s – qualified second level nurses, who had undertaken a course of preparation of at least 18 months. This title and their training course were phased out in the ’90s. By 2000, SEN’s worked in the clinical setting as part of a team usually lead by a Registered Nurse (RN’s). SEN’s were less well trained than a Registered Nurse, who had undertaken courses of three years. SEN’s wouldn’t often take charge of a ward and there were other restrictions as to what they could do.

Couldn’t care less attitude

We had three of these lovely SEN’s on our ward, I liked them as individuals and I respected their 10-20 years of experience. I learnt much from these SEN’s – more about ‘how not to be a nurse’ unfortunately. We had Marie who was from the eastern side of the world. She had a nervous tic where she blinked rapidly and wriggled her nose in time to her rapid-fire speech. You would forgive patients for not liking Marie as she was brusque and barked out orders to patients and staff like a drill sergeant on speed.

One day I popped my head in to see Connie, an elderly lady who had schizophrenia and found her sitting on her bed crying. I asked why and, in her lovely Irish lilt, she sighed “Oh, I don’t want to get anyone in trouble. I’m okay, honestly.” Knowing she wasn’t okay, I encouraged her to tell me what was wrong. She whispered “Marie’s just been in to wash me and put cream on my bottom but I’m even sorer now, She rubbed me so hard with a rough towel. But no matter, please. I’ll be fine.”

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“You don’t look very fine to me Connie. Come on my lovely. Let me see what we can do to make you more comfortable.” She lay on her bed and lifted her hospital gown, legs akimbo, the poor thing. She was mortified. Actually, so was I when I saw that her bottom, her genital area, the top of her thighs and under her large breasts were all red-raw and seeping green liquid. I pulled her gown down and told her I was off to see the ward doctor and wouldn’t be too long.

Doctor Dalani, a kind but very young junior doctor was good at his job and, he loved working in Psychiatry. I caught him just as he was going for lunch and explained the problem. I giggled when his face turned puce and I pretended I hadn’t seen him retch. He came with me to assess Connie’s sores; he lifted her gown, took one look and fled from the room. I don’t think he was aware that he’d held his breath all the while he was in Connie’s room. Back in his office, he prescribed antibiotic cream and a course of antibiotics.

Later that day, with said cream, pills and non-latex gloves I popped into Connie’s room and bathed her skin with a soft cloth and warm water. Then I dabbed it dry and applied the cream as softly as possible. Connie said her thighs were painful at night as they rubbed against each other so I told her how I’d slept with a large pillow between my thighs in the past and I got her one from our store cupboard.

I was disappointed because Marie could have and should have done all this. When I went to explain what I’d done and said that a new care plan needs to be put in place, Marie yapped at me, “She’s my patient. Don’t touch!” When discussing issues like this with my supervisor, I was told: “Don’t worry, that’s just how Marie is!”

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It was lunchtime and I could hear a commotion on the ward; chairs scraping and raised voices so I looked out from the office. Two members of staff, two third-year students and several patients were all standing, anxiously staring at each other, mouths wide open but saying nothing. Jenny, an older and very large patient, appeared from around the dining area corner. She was still in her nightdress, staggering towards the ladies, in the corridor, and clutching her throat. She was choking!

“Get the emergency trolley and call the Crash Team” I yelled at staff as I ran to Jenny. She was far too big for me to do the Heimlich manoeuvre (a first-aid procedure used to treat upper airway obstructions by foreign objects). I tried to bend her over slightly and using the heel of my hand, I thumped hard between her shoulder blades, in an attempt to dislodge the food. Nothing.

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The students were now screaming at the other two members of staff, “do something Alison. Where’s the trolley Devinder? What’s the number for the crash team?” Fortunately, Judy, a large Caribbean NA came from nowhere, taking control, “You get the trolley Devinder. You, Alison, call Crash, 2222!” Then she tried to help me hold onto Jenny, who was slipping from my grasp, going blue and wheezing. Jenny had, unfortunately, wet herself, then – she was unconscious.

Our patient had no pulse

Jenny slid to the floor and I went with her, finding myself kneeling in a pool of urine. I continued to thump hard between her shoulder blades and I started to panic – there was no emergency trolly, no oxygen…….. “Get everyone away from here!” I demanded, “or get a curtain,” because other patients shouldn’t be watching this. I felt angry at the lack of support from the other two staff and the senior students and their inability to follow simple instructions. Moreover, I felt scared as Judy and I stared at Jenny’s limp body and felt her pulse weaken to zero.

The door to the ward burst open! Help had arrived. The out of breath on-call-doctor asked if she’d lost output. I foolishly replied, “Yes – she peed herself.” Then, I realised, that wasn’t what he meant. I was moved out of the way as the Cardiac team took over, and two senior nurses beamed at me, “Well done.” and ” You did well.” I was shaking like a leaf. “Take five minutes to yourself – and breathe!” One said warmly and I watched as Jenny was lifted onto a trolley and taken to the general hospital. She survived after they were able to dislodge a large piece of unchewed beef.

Post incident debrief

Immediately after the event, I rounded up the staff and students to de-brief. I asked how everyone was and also, what we could have done differently. “You could have been a bit calmer. You shouldn’t have shouted at us. You could have………….. You should have…….

I told them that what I’d actually meant was We could have:

  • intervened sooner. Perhaps the observing nurse Devinder (an SEN of almost thirty years) or the senior students could have alerted us earlier
  • attempted to dislodge the food immediately and
  • called out for help, instead of all just standing there
  • moved patients away
  • put a screen up
  • got the emergency trolley and oxygen sooner
  • offered to help me

I was furious with the nurse in charge, an SEN who had been on this ward for eight years but still didn’t know what to do in an emergency. This wasn’t the first incident either. I spoke to our ward manager the next day and said, as much as I like Devinder, I couldn’t work with someone so incompetent and that he needed extra training. That day, he was moved to another ward!

English as a second language

I was by now acting ward manager on a ward for the elderly when I came across Mala, who was of Indian origin and spoke near-perfect English. She was an SEN of many years and appeared competent. She was always smiley, keen and efficient so I liked working with her on shift. However, I was auditing her patients’ files one morning and spotted lots of grammatical errors and spelling mistakes, one which could be misconstrued and another, well, that one was just funny.

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Once, during a team meeting, Mala not only fell asleep but, she was snoring so loudly, we couldn’t hear each other speak. She was nudged several times by staff either side of her but on each occasion, she fell back into her coma. At the end of the meeting, I asked Mala to come into my office for a quick chat. Immediately defensive, she slouched on a chair with her arms folded and her chin in the air. I said I’d like to talk to her about a few things and started by asking if she was okay? “Of course I am okay. Why are you asking me? Do you have a problem with me?”

“Tell me what happened in the team meeting Mala.” I began. Her nostrils flared, she pulled herself up and snorted “Nothing, I was just resting my eyes.”

“You were sleeping Mala and it’s not appropriate in a team meeting or at any other point during a shift. Is everything okay with you? What can I do to help?”

“Nothing, I was just resting my eyes. Why are you picking on me? You don’t like me, do you?”

“Mala, let’s stick to the point. You were asleep and snoring.”

“No. Why are you writing things down? Why you don’t like me?

“I have to keep a record of our meetings Mala. I also need to speak to you regarding your notes and care plans. I noticed lots of errors; this one here,” I pointed out to her. “What does it say?”

“It says ‘patient slept all night,'” she stated.

“No Mala, it says ‘patient slipped all night'”

“Well, you know what it means. I am a good nurse. You just don’t like me.”

We were all aware that this particular patient had a habit of falling over -and as patient notes are potentially legal documents – Mala’s ‘slipping’ all night could be taken quite literally in a court of law.

Mala, let’s look at this one – what does it say?”

“It says ‘patient obese from having too much ‘coke'” she faltered.

It says “too much ‘cock’ Mala.” She had the good grace to blush and she gulped “Oh, I did not know. Sorry, I will change.”

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On I went, error by error, and much to Mala’s consternation, I suggested that she attend the English course provided by the Trust. She was not happy and continued with “You just picking on me. Why you don’t like me. Tell me.”

“Mala, I’m not picking on you. I’m doing my job. Would you like it if, as a manager, I didn’t do my job properly?”

“You being racist. You don’t like my English. I will put a complaint,” she huffed.

“Okay, that’s fine Mala. Let me print out the Bullying and Harassment Policy and the Race Discrimination Policy for you. Why don’t you take them both away with you, read them and highlight anywhere that you feel I’ve been inappropriate, picking on you or being racist. When you’ve finished, come back to me and I’ll help you write your complaint in the correct grammatical and spelling format. I’ll let you have two weeks. How does this sound?”

Mala glared at me but took the policies anyway before I asked her to sign the notes I’d just typed. She refused, fuming and stormed off. They would be signed when, after two weeks, I asked her into my office. “How did you get on reading the policies Mala? Would you like me to print out a complaint form?”

“I can’t be bothered. I….. No. Just leave it at that,” she blustered.

“Okay Mala, but I still want you to attend the English course so, I’d like you to apply within the month. I also would like you to sign the notes I typed during our last meeting.”

While I appreciate that SEN’s had less formal training than we did as RMN’s, these three had many more years of experience on the wards. and it just beggars belief that they’d been allowed to get away with such incompetence for so long. Still, that’s another post.

How would you have responded to any one of these three SEN’s? I’d be interested to know your thoughts.

12 Celebrities who suffer from anxiety

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Anxiety is a normal, if unpleasant, part of life, and it can affect us all at different times and in different ways. It can persist whether or not the cause is clear to the sufferer.

Anxiety is a feeling of unease, such as worry or fear, that can be mild or severe. It’s natural to worry during stressful times, but some people feel anxious day after day, even with little to worry about. Their feelings of anxiety are more constant and can often affect their daily life.

For people with an anxiety disorder, feelings like stress, panic and worry are longer-lasting, more extreme and far harder to control. Symptoms may also include feeling restless or agitated, panic attacks, having trouble concentrating or sleeping, sweating, shortness of breath, dizziness and heart palpitations, MQ Mental Health, 2019.

Let’s take a look at some female celebrities who have told of their anxiety and/or panic attacks:

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  1. Oprah Winfrey said in a 2013 interview that anxiety nearly caused her to have a nervous breakdown. 
  2. Kourtney Kardashian wrote on her blog “When my anxiety is extreme, it feels like my body is constantly burning calories all day long,”
  3. Lady Gaga says “I’ve suffered through depression and anxiety my entire life; I still suffer with it every single day.”
  4. Ariana Grande said that following the bombing at her Manchester Arena concert in May 2017, she experienced symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
  5. Whoopi Goldberg is afraid of flying and this condition is a form of anxiety known as a phobia, a fear of a particular object or situation.
  6. Adele suffers from anxiety attacks

It may be especially hard for men to disclose mental health problems, as boys are more often taught from young to be strong, not to be a cry-baby and not to talk about feelings. However, as of late, lots of male celebrities have expressed problems with anxiety and what’s great is they’re using their own platforms to bring awareness to mental health issues and encourage other men to get help:

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  1. Prince Harry has shared how panic attacks plagued him after his mother’s death. 
  2. Michael Phelps said that throughout his career, he struggled with depression and anxiety at various times.
  3. Zayn Malik of One Direction said he cancelled one of his concerts due to extreme anxiety.
  4. Leonardo Dicaprio says that his anxiety stems from the small things, things that really shouldn’t make you anxious.
  5. Hugh Grant said “absurd stage fright attacks” would hit him in the middle of filming without warning. The episodes began while he was filming Notting Hill in 1999, after which, he took a five-year break from acting.
  6. Ryan Reynolds said he spent many nights earlier in his career awake paralyzed by anxiety.

The above are just some of the celebs who suffer from anxiety, there’s lots more who experience different mental health disorders.

When celebrities and people in the public eye open up about their anxiety and disclose their mental health issues, it can help break down some of the barriers surrounding mental health and reduce the stigma. According to Psychology Today, “High profile people who disclose their experiences with mental illness bring a positive light to health and wellness.”

However, Each Mind Matters said that according to research, sharing your own story may have a larger impact on the attitudes of the people in your daily life than a celebrity’s public disclosure.

What helps you when you’ve experienced anxiety? Do you have any tips you could share?

 

 

Mental ill-health in the UK armed forces

According to inews’ Nigel Morris (1), “More than 60,000 armed forces veterans in the UK have broken the law, are homeless or are suffering mental health problems, a study has disclosed.”

The scale of their struggle to adjust to civilian life brought accusations that ministers were failing men and women who had risked their lives for their country. According to the analysis, some 50,000 are coping with mental health conditions, 10,000 are in prison, on parole or on probation and 6,000 have no permanent address.

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Mental Health First Aid England (2) reported that in 2015/16, 3.2% of UK armed forces personnel were assessed with a mental health disorder – over 6,000 people. Many more go undiagnosed and untreated. The most common ways these stressors impact on members of the armed forces are depression, anxiety, adjustment disorders, post-traumatic stress disorder, and alcohol misuse.

Just like the rest of the population, stigma and lack of awareness around our mental health compared to our physical health is often a barrier to armed forces personnel getting the treatment they need to recover.

MHFA training courses teach people to spot the symptoms of mental health issues, offer initial help and guide a person towards support. It won’t teach you to be a therapist, but it will teach you to listen, reassure and respond, even in a crisis – and even potentially stop a crisis from happening.

Developed in collaboration with the UK’s leading military support charities, Armed Forces MHFA is tailored to the unique culture and mental health needs of the military community. For everyone in the armed forces community – serving and ex-serving personnel, their families and support organisations – our training gives you the skills to:

  • Stop a preventable health issue from escalating by spotting and addressing it early
  • Know how and where to access treatment if it’s needed, for a faster recovery
  • Help keep yourself, the people you support, your colleagues and your family healthy
  • Minimise the impact of mental ill-health on work and life

Perhaps you would be interested in MHFA Armed Forces training? Take a look at their website.

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NHS mental health care for veterans (3) report “Mental illness is common and can affect anyone (including serving and ex-members of the Armed Forces and their families). Whilst some people cope by getting support from their family and friends, or by getting help with other issues in their lives, others need clinical care and treatment, which could be from the NHS, support groups or charities.”

Within the NHS, there is a range of mental health services that provide different types of care and treatment. This includes dedicated mental health services for service personnel approaching discharge from the British Armed Forces and veterans. By veteran, the NHS says “we mean anyone who has served for at least one day in Her Majesty’s Armed Forces (regular or reserve).

These dedicated services are called the NHS Veterans’ Mental Health Transition, Intervention and Liaison Service (TILS) and the NHS Veterans’ Mental Health Complex Treatment Service (CTS). Both of these services are provided by specialists in mental health who have an expert understanding of the Armed Forces.

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But those who deliver mental health support say demand for assistance is rising and charities say more flexible and efficient support is what personnel and veterans need. Veterans charity, Combat Stress, claims it receives nearly 2,000 new referrals every year, Laura Makin-Isherwood, 2019 (4). However, in May 2019, it was said that Prince Charles was set to launch a £10m appeal to help fund their work.

That same month, the Defence Secretary, Penny Mordaunt announced up to £9m will be allocated to mental health and wellbeing activities for ex-service personnel, and support will be given to veteran-led groups looking for funding.

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“The NHS has recently rolled out a new scheme, the ‘National Heroes Service’, part of the NHS Long Term Plan. It has been designed to improve the primary care of those who served and their families. Through the scheme, GPs are sent comprehensive resource packages helping them to identify veterans and ensure that hospitals and staff recognise their military background. Subsequently, if specialist care is needed the patient can then be directed to specific referral pathways.” Ed Parker, 2019 (5)

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While GP services should always be the first point of contact for a veteran seeking mental health support, there are specialist veteran services that have been set up in order to address veteran’s needs. These services have a better understanding of the mitigating circumstances the individual may have faced because of their military service, and ensure greater engagement and empathy with the patient.

Although steps have been taken to simplify the veteran care pathway through care coordination, more can be done to enable veterans to gain easy access to the support they need. As a group of charities with the same beneficiary at stake, we must continue to strive for collaborative, ethical, informed outcomes that enable veterans to live independent of both State and Third Sector support.

  1. Nigel Morris, https://inews.co.uk/news/uk/armed-forces-veterans-homeless-crime-prison-mental-health-254034
  2. MHFA Armed Forces
  3. NHS mental health care for veterans.
  4. Laura Makin-Isherwood, Forces.net
  5. Ed Parker, Walking with the wounded.org

What does ‘Recovery’ mean in mental health?

Recovery means different things to different people. On the 13th September 2019, Recovery in the Bin (1) delivered their keynote talk at the 25th International Mental Health Nursing Research Conference, essentially critiquing the current models of Recovery and seeking change. I’ll let them explain the rest:

“Recovery in the Bin is a user-led critical theorist group, who have spent half a decade at least critiquing recovery and making jokes in order to survive. We are not academics, we are ‘Binners’, and we come from beyond academia, from a mysterious place you may have read about, known as ‘Reality’.‘Anecdotal’ is not a dirty word in our world, and our hierarchy of evidence has lived experience right at the top!”

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“Our focus and critique is therefore based on our user-led collective’s experiences, which are grounded in the way recovery is understood, researched and implemented with people who have severe and long-term mental health conditions. We are today’s ‘grassroots’ – the very people from whom the recovery vision originally emerged……..”

“……… So, as mental health nurses and researchers, we ask that you stay true to the original recovery vision. Remember the grassroots, those of us with severe and enduring mental health conditions. Don’t abandon us to neorecovery. By the time Recovery Colleges are crumbling buildings, it will be too late.”

Jacobs (2) suggested; “For many people with mental illness, the concept of recovery is about staying in control of their life rather than the elusive state of return to premorbid level of functioning. Such an approach, which does not focus on full symptom resolution but emphasises resilience and control over problems and life, has been called the recovery model (3,4). The approach argues against just treating or managing symptoms but focusing on building resilience of people with mental illness and supporting those in emotional distress.”

While there is no single definition of the concept of recovery for people with mental health problems, there are guiding principles, which emphasise hope and a strong belief that it is possible for people with mental illness can regain a meaningful life, despite persistent symptoms. Recovery is often referred to as a process, an outlook, a vision, a conceptual framework or a guiding principle.

The following is an article by Rethink Mental Illness (5), which gives their current take on Recovery.

Recovery

Looking at what it means to recover from a mental illness, this article focuses on personal recovery and suggests different ways that you can help your own recovery. Not everything here will help you to recover from your illness but hopefully it will help you to work out what you find useful.

What is recovery?

There are 2 different meanings for recovery. However, they may overlap. These are:

  • clinical recovery, and
  • personal recovery
Photo: Hillcrest Adolescent treatment centre.

Your doctor might have talked to you about ‘recovery’. Some doctors and health professionals think of recovery as no longer having mental health symptoms. Sometimes this is called ‘clinical recovery’. Dealing with symptoms is important to many people. But we think recovery is much wider; we call it ‘personal recovery.’

Personal recovery means that you are able to live a meaningful life. What you want in your life will be different from what someone else wants to do with their life. Don’t be afraid to think about what you would like to do and work towards that goal.

Below are some ways you can think of recovery:

  • Taking steps to get closer to where you would like to be. For example, you may want a better social life.
  • Building hope for the future. You could change your goals, skills, roles or outlook.

Recovery is an ongoing process. It is normal to have difficulties or setbacks along the way. You could describe yourself as ‘recovered’ at any stage in your recovery if you feel things are better than they were before.

What can help me recover?

You will recover in your own way. There is no right or wrong way, it is personal. Some people call this process a ‘recovery journey’. Think about the following questions:

  • What do I want to have done by this time next year?
  • How can I do it?
  • Do I need support to do it?
  • Who can support me?
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Mind believe hope, acceptance, stability, healthy relationships, treatment (either medical or talking therapies and support groups) and healthy lifestyle (which includes good diet, exercise, limited alcohol intake) are a key part of recovery and can help improve your mental health. Low self-esteem and a negative outlook can be a barrier for hope for the future and can be linked to mental illness. Noting similar issues in yourself can be the first step towards building hope.

So, in plain English, what does Recovery mean to you?

  1. Recovery in the Bin, Edwards, B. M., Burgess, R., and Thomas, E. (2019, September). Neorecovery: A survivor led conceptualisation and critique [Transcript]. Keynote presented at the 25th International Mental Health Nursing Research Conference, The Royal College of Nursing, London, UK. https://recoveryinthebin.org/neorecovery-a-survivor-led-conceptualisation-and-critique-mhrn2019/
  2. Jacobs K. Recovery Model of Mental Illness: A Complementary Approach to Psychiatric Care Indian J Psychol Med. 2015 Apr-Jun; 37(2): 117–119.
  3. Ramon S, Healy B, Renouf N. Recovery from mental illness as an emergent concept and practice in Australia and the UK. Int J Soc Psychiatry. 2007;53:108–22. [PubMed] [Google Scholar]
  4. Davidson L. Recovery, self management and the expert patient: Changing the culture of mental health from a UK Perspective. J Ment Health. 2005;14:25–35. [Google Scholar]
  5. https://www.rethink.org/advice-and-information/living-with-mental-illness/treatment-and-support/recovery/

Facts about male suicide

How much do you know about male suicide?

What is the definition of suicide?

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It’s Men’s Mental Health week 15th – 21st June 2020 and a timely reminder to repost this article, Facts about male suicide.

Trigger warning; the topics covered in this article may trigger emotional responses and you may wish to stop reading now.

The term suicide describes the intentional act of taking one’s own life. In this article, we’re talking about suicide in the conventional sense, where someone acts upon self-destructive thoughts and feelings.

The Office for National Statistics (ONS) definition is: Suicide includes all deaths from intentional self-harm for persons aged 10 and over. Suicide also describes deaths caused by injury or poisoning, where the intent was undetermined for those aged 15 and over.

UK statistics for male suicide

The incidence of completed suicide is vastly higher among males than females among all age groups in most of the world. As of 2015, almost two-thirds of worldwide suicides (representing about 1.5% of all deaths) are committed by men. The following figures come from ONS

  • In 2018, there were 6,507 suicides registered in the UK, an age-standardised rate of 11.2 deaths per 100,000 population
  • Three-quarters of registered deaths in 2018 were among men (4,903 deaths)
  • The UK male suicide rate of 17.2 deaths per 100,000 represents a significant increase from the rate in 2017
  • Males aged 45 to 49 years had the highest age-specific suicide rate (27.1 deaths per 100,000 males); for females, the age group with the highest rate was also 45 to 49 years, at 9.2 deaths per 100,000
  • As seen in previous years, the most common method of suicide in the UK was hanging, accounting for 59.4% of all suicides among males

What are the risk factors for attempting suicide?

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  1. Mental health disorders including depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, personality disorders, anxiety disorders, substance abuse including alcoholism and the use of benzodiazepines.
  2. Those who have previously attempted suicide are at higher risk for future attempts.
  3. Having a family history of suicide or impulsive behaviour is also believed to increase risk of suicidality.
  4. Some suicides are impulsive acts due to stress i.e. financial difficulties, relationship problems such as breakups, or bullying.
  5. When there’s an economic downturn, resulting in increased unemployment, for example, there tends to be an associated increase in suicide – typically 18-24 months after the downturn, BBC. One 2015 study found that for every 1% increase in unemployment there is a 0.79% increase in the suicide rate, NCBI.
  6. Older men are at increased risk for suicide, and they complete suicide at a higher rate than any other age group. They’re especially at risk because they don’t usually seek counselling for depression or other mental illnesses, Psychcom.
  7. Other risk factors can include:
  • Access to firearms
  • Isolation from others
  • History of physical or sexual abuse
  • Having a terminal or chronic illness
  • People can become suicidal when they feel overwhelmed by life’s challenges, lack hope for the future, and they see no other way out

What symptoms might you notice?

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Jumping from a bridge

The obvious sign of someone who’s considering suicide would be talking about it, saying things like “I’m going to kill myself”, “I wish I could jump in front of a train” or “I feel like jumping off that bridge”. However, there are many other signs that can indicate risk and the more there are, the higher the risk for suicide:

  • being depressed, sad and low
  • not taking interest in usual hobbies
  • increased anger, agitation, anxiety, shame, guilt or humiliation
  • isolating self from others, not taking calls or answering the door
  • stockpiling pills or sourcing a weapon
  • driving recklessly
  • increased aggression, agitation
  • not communicating with friends or family in usual way
  • giving away possessions or writing a will
  • increased drug and alcohol use
  • searching out suicide information on the internet
  • wishing you didn’t exist or that you’ve never been born
  • feeling like a burden to everyone, that there’s no purpose to life and feeling hopeless or worthless

The above list is not exhaustive and you may have other symptoms. If you’re experiencing the above symptoms regularly, please speak to your GP or another mental health professional. If you’re reluctant to seek treatment, talk to someone you trust, like a loved one, a friend or faith leader.

Last but not least

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Suicide is a hugely sensitive issue and the very nature of a death by suicide means we can’t fully know the reasons behind it. And talking about it can be really scary but the more open we are, the more likely we are in helping someone seek the support they need.

Some people think that if you ask someone if they’re having suicidal thoughts, you’ll put the idea in their head. This isn’t true and if you suspect that someone is considering suicide, it’s really important that you do ask them directly “Are you thinking about suicide?” Don’t be afraid to do this, it will actually decrease their risk because someone is willing to talk about it. If they do tell you that they’re having thoughts of suicide, offer to stay with them and to listen. If they have the method and means to kill themselves, do not leave them alone and let them know you need to contact someone of their choice. But do not place yourself at risk. Encourage them to talk and to seek urgent professional support, helping them find it if necessary.

Over to you

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As with my last post, for those of you who are not mental health professionals, did you learn anything new? For those of you ‘in the know’, have I missed something/anything? I’m looking forward to your comments, suggestions or questions.

In the meantime, you might find the following articles useful:

NHS Choices – Suicide

Suicide

Comprehensive help and information from NHS Choices with links to external websites.

The Samaritans

Tel: 116 123

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You can cope

Samaritans is available round the clock, every single day of the year. We provide a safe place for anyone struggling to cope, whoever they are, however they feel, whatever life has done to them. Please call 116 123 email jo@samaritans.org, or visit www.samaritans.org to find details of the nearest branch.

Shout

Text Shout to 85258

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Shout is the UK’s first free 24/7 text service for anyone in crisis anytime, anywhere. It’s a place to go if you’re struggling to cope and you need immediate help.

Mind

MindInfoline: 0300 123 3393

mind.org.uk

Suicidal feelings

Elefriends online support community

Mind helps people take control of their mental health. We do this by providing high-quality information and advice, and campaigning to promote and protect good mental health for everyone.

CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably)

Helpline: 0800 58 58 58

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The Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) works to prevent male suicide and offers support services for any man who is struggling or in crisis. CALM’s helpline 0800 58 58 58 and web-chat are for men in the UK who need to talk or find information and support. The services are open 5pm–midnight daily and are free, anonymous and confidential. For access or to find more information visit thecalmzone.net

ChildLine

Helpline: 0800 11 11

childline.org.uk

Coping with suicidal feelings

ChildLine is a counselling service for children and young people. You can contact ChildLine in these ways: You can phone on 0800 1111, send us an email, have a 1-2-1 chat with us, send a message to Ask Sam and you can post messages to the ChildLine message boards.

YoungMinds

Helpline: 0808 802 5544

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Suicidal feelings

Parents’ Information Service gives advice to parents or carers who may be concerned about the mental health or emotional well being of a child or young person.

The Mix

Helpline: 0808 808 4994

themix.org.uk

Suicide

Life’s tough, we know that. It can throw a lot your way and make it hard to know what the hell to do with it all. So, welcome to The Mix. Whether you’re 13, 25, or any age in between, we’re here to take on the embarrassing problems, weird questions, and please-don’t-make-me-say-it-out-loud thoughts you have. We give you the information and support you need to deal with it all.

Students Against Depression

Suicide and self harm

Surviving suicidal thoughts

Students Against Depression is a website offering advice, information, guidance and resources to those affected by low mood, depression and suicidal thinking. Alongside clinically-validated information and resources it presents the experiences, strategies and advice of students themselves – after all, who are better placed to speak to their peers about how depression can be overcome.

Maytree

Tel: 020 7263 7070

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At Maytree, we provide people in the midst of a suicidal crisis with the opportunity for rest and reflection, and give them the opportunity to stay in a calm, safe and relaxed environment. We can support four “guests” at a time. The service runs 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. Our warm and friendly volunteers and staff team spend up to 77 hours with each guest over their stay, giving them the opportunity to talk through their fears, thoughts and troubles.

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